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Margaret and Jamie: Introverts Unite!

July 7, 2016 By Barbara

052-m-j-sooke-harbour-house-victoria-wedding-photography More quiet/introverted by nature, both Jamie and Margaret are drawn out with humour and a relaxed atmosphere. They wanted to get married right next to the ocean with only immediate family present, and when we met, had some specific requests. They wanted:

  • to walk to the ceremony site with their families rather than having a specific entrance for the bride/groom.
  • to have their families gather around them rather than having the feeling of being on display.
  • to feel comfortable and to enjoy getting married.

2.101-m-j-sooke-harbour-house-victoria-wedding-photographyAll quite do-able. And the joy of creating your ceremony along with me, if you are an introvert, is that you get to both dig deep into the process and spread it out, too, so when we get to the ceremony, you are less likely to feel overwhelmed and go into “tilt” mode.  You can be more present.  And you can feel more like the “do-er” than the “done to.”

 

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And how they dug right into the process! One of Jamie’s stories was of surprising Margaret as she got off a flight with a crantini he had created in the men’s washroom at the airport. Too good to pass by, it went into the ceremony.  Then we decided to have some fun carrying it further. So, at the ceremony’s end, staff at the Sooke Harbour House appeared with crantinis hidden in Tim Horton’s cups, just as in the story.  Whoops of delight from everyone turned into extensive toasts…:)

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The rest of the ceremony…well, yes, the couple were totally surrounded by their families in many different ways in this interactive ceremony. (The joy of a small group is that the dynamics are totally different… I can explain how if we talk.)

 

Photographer Gwen Thurston from Funkytown Photography captured the relaxed, casual, and heartfelt sense of the day so exquisitely. Much of her work was catching the moments that mattered most. Lovely lovely job.  You can see more images here.

M&J left me a wonderful review on Wedding Wire:

We knew Barbara was the one! From the get-go, we could see her genuine passion for her work as a Celebrant- she loves people and really understands others- and brings a wealth of career experience. Barbara met with us in person to discuss our wishes for our ceremony (and perhaps most importantly, what we didn’t want). Throughout the whole process, Barbara was always incredibly insightful, flexible, supportive, and fun. She gave is an extensive ceremony questionnaire to complete and used this to guide the development of the ceremony. Barbara wrote an incredibly personal ceremony that captured who we are, what we wanted to say, and how we wanted to say it. She was totally open to our feedback, changed what we wanted, and offered excellent suggestions when we felt stumped. Barbara wove a funny story about us into the ceremony and suggested that we incorporate a special toast at the end- it was a special surprise for our guests & brought much laughter! She always remained sensitive to those who would be in attendance and made sure our guests felt welcomed and included. Most importantly she helped us make our wedding ceremony meaningful to us, staying true to ourselves and our values, while marking a very important transition in our lives. We feel so fortunate that we found Barbara. It is an unforgettable day. We cannot recommend her enough! Book her already! 🙂

 

Filed Under: Weddings Tagged With: celebrant, family wedding ceremony, Funkytown Photography, small wedding, Sooke Harbour House, Victoria BC, wedding ceremony, wee wedding

Adina and Keegan: Wedding Surprise

November 21, 2014 By Barbara

On what was the 6th anniversary of their meeting, Adina and Keegan decided they would get married. A lot had happened since then; they had 2 children, and Adina had started the uber-cool Wren and Rook Photography. 

Adina Keegan blog vowsGiven that history, and who they are (comfortable, authentic, open), a “traditional wedding” was simply not a fit for them. Instead, they invited those closest to them to a 30th birthday dinner for Keegan. Only when  their guests were gathered did the truth unfold and everyone was led to a (decorated) forested spot.

” I want you to know that Keegan and Adina thought long and hard about how they wanted to get married. They made a conscious decision to invite each and every one of you. You are the ridiculously awesome irreplaceable people that they wanted to share this moment in time with. 

 You have all been a big part of their lives and their relationship…and although their original idea was to run away – just the two of them – they decided in the end, that not having you all here with them to share in their happiness just didn’t feel right.”

The ceremony was relaxed and real. After the initial surprise (and delight), everyone warmed to the idea of helping me marry the couple.  Their breathtakingly thoughtful vows were delivered with great intention. We  included herbs and flowers into a fragrant shower of joy at the end of the ceremony.

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“You have kissed a thousand times, maybe more.

But today the feeling is new.

Today, your kiss is a promise….

Keegan, you may kiss your bride.”

 

 

 

 

 

 

Thanks to The Nickersons for the awesome photos….so many wholehearted moments, beautifully captured. And Adina and Keegan, what a delight and honour to be part of this (secret) magic.

Filed Under: Weddings Tagged With: Qualicum, surprise wedding, wee wedding

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