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Handfasting 101

November 16, 2010 By Barbara Densmore 1 Comment

Elysse Anna Photography

Handfasting, for many people, popped onto the radar thanks to the 1995 movie Braveheart.  In actual fact, it is perhaps one of the oldest wedding traditions.  In Europe, until the mid 1700’s, few unions were sanctified in a church or synagogue. Rather, they were celebrated by a simple hand fasting ceremony, which often marked the betrothal or engagement period (“a year and a day”).  Sometimes handfasting was used again to finally bind together a couple as husband and wife.

handfasting wrap with Tartan in garden at Hatley Castle

Today, there are a variety of ways to add handfasting into a wedding ceremony:

  • A traditional ritual using a single cord, scarf, or piece of fabric
  • Or use different cords, colours or keepsakes that are meaningful.
  • Tie yourselves together.
  • Or have your special people take an active role in the ritual.

son handfasts his mom and new dad together with measuring tape

2020 Update

Wow, it’s hard to believe that it’s been almost 10 years since I wrote this post!  And so many handfastings since then!  We’ve used climbing rope, measuring tape, handmade cords, bicycle inner tube, and yes, even a set of (real) handcuffs.  We even used a bride’s veil in a group handfasting when we ran out of cord…:)

If your wedding is being delayed due to Co-Vid 19, consider these:

Do a handfasting elopement if your original day is important to you. It can be a legal wedding ceremony or simply a symbolic commitment ceremony, depending upon the actual day you want to be married. It can also be zoomed to special people who want to be there, but can’t.

If you are using the services of someone like moi, the handfasting can be tied into your later wedding date (the couples I am talking to don’t just want a party, they want a real ceremony on that date…the walk up the aisle, the wedding party, all that stuff.)

There are lots of ways you can “tie the knot” and keep your days linked together. Who knows…maybe it will turn into an annual ritual?

Handfasting intimate wedding ceremony

Image by Jon-Mark Photography

Or…if you aren’t delaying…just looking for a way to get married that is real and true, consider waiting for a bit and holding a wee wedding/group elopement, where the people you love the most (up to 20) can handfast you together.  Lots of ways to do this, all of them chock full of love. And a way to get married that everyone will remember. Forever. I promise you that..:)

L&J are handfasted together by all the guests in Sooke BCTulle and Tweed Photography

Contact me about your Handfasting Ceremony

 

Modern Metaphysical Minister/Celebrant and Wedding Officiant, Vancouver Island. Including Victoria, Duncan, Nanaimo, Parksville, Qualicu,m, Courtenay, Comox Valley and Campbell River. Tofino and Ucluelet as available.

Filed Under: Weddings Tagged With: Co-Vid 19 wedding, commitment ceremony, hand-fasting, handfasting

Comments

  1. Michele Davidson says

    November 16, 2010 at 8:13 pm

    I have been on a one-woman mission to revive Handfasting in my ceremonies — people love them — because this ritual is so accessible and tangible. It is also beautiful and gives the couple time just to be with each other… no doing, just being. Glad to see you are integrating into ceremonies. Go forth and handfast!

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