Ash scatterings and memorial plantings

“How lucky I am to have something that makes saying good-bye so hard.” Anon.

Active ceremonies give people personal and dynamic ways to “work things through”, to honour, grieve, and share, both through an intentional ceremony design process and a meaningful delivery. Through actions and words, I'll help you to say farewell in a fitting fashion.

Ash scatterings: Many people tell me that they have kept the ashes of a loved one because they don’t know how to scatter them in a meaningful way. Perhaps you want to scatter ashes over the ocean, but don’t know how. Or you may have a special place chosen, but don’t know what to do or say. What you do know: You know this is the final good-bye. You want it to be genuine.

Memorial plantings or dedications: Memorial plantings or bench dedications in public places often go without ceremony. City staff do the work and you get a little plaque. There is another way. You can choose to honour your loved one in a way that fits their character.

How we'll work:

First, an initial phone/skype call.  We'll talk about what you really want the ceremony to give to you and your loved ones.  I'll ask some clarifying questions that will help bring your ceremony into focus.  Plan for an hour.

Then, after a wee bit of some simmering time, I will provide you with an outline for your ceremony, based on what we discussed in our call. That outline will contain all the things you can gather/assemble for your ceremony…sort of like a map, giving you a clear sense of direction, and allowing you to focus on what matters most.

Once you are done adding those into the outline, I will spend a final hour with you, giving your ceremony a final edit and making sure that you are ready in every way for the delivery (it's not every day that you will do a ceremony like this, and it's easy to miss the details that count.) 
 

My fee:  $200 to $250.

"This is exactly the type of ceremony that Dad would have loved..warm, casual, and real. Much more than the public memorial. This was more of who he was. He would have loved to be here. And he likely was."   Jan, daughter at planting ceremony for her father.

Click here to read about a memorial tree planting I designed.