Allison and Nick understood that, and they didn’t want to miss a nanosecond of it….whatever “it” looked like.
When I explained how a good ceremony works (you depart from your previous lives, set your intentions for your future, and then cross over the threshold into your new life), they immediately “got” it. And they knew that they wanted to be fully engaged in all the steps. And their family and friends who mean the world to them…well they wanted them to be right there with them, too. Every step of the way.
“Being right there” doesn’t mean just standing and watching. So we made their ceremony very participative. Their families were interactively involved, parents were honoured with great love, guests made active wishes for the couple, and by the end of the ceremony, we had a wedding vase full of wishes and flowers from everyone, all collected by Nick’s brother (who does an amazing Vanna White imitation…:)
And oh, they had some funny and touching stories to tell, and so we did. Both Nick and Allison were comfortable to ad lib in a few places (easy to do when you have helped to create the ceremony).
And as lighthearted as the stories were, their vows were magnetic. Both approached the process whole-heartedly, and now they have vows for a lifetime (I recently saw them printed up in their wedding album…sweet….:)
Nick told me that when he and Allison are old and holding hands as they shuffle to the mall together, they want young couples to point at them and say to each other: “that’s who I hope we become.” Are you smiling at that thought? Me, too. So did their guests. Could we wish for better?
“We recently had Barbara as our wedding celebrant and she did such a wonderful job! Helped us along with everything the entire way.
Of everything with our wedding, every guest that approached us mentioned how much they LOVED our ceremony and were so engaged with it being unique from every other wedding that they had been to.
Thank you so much, Barbara!” Nick & Allison